Identity triggers vs. performance feedback

Why do some feedback conversations lead to growth, while others leave people feeling hurt, misunderstood, or defensive?

In this episode, we explore the delicate intersection between identity and performance feedback. Through real workplace examples, they unpack how even well-intentioned feedback can unintentionally trigger feelings of exclusion, erasure, or judgment—and what leaders can do when that happens.

In this episode we discuss:

• The difference between performance feedback and identity triggers
• Why relational trust matters before difficult conversations
• How leaders can recognize when a feedback conversation has gone off track
• The role of curiosity, reflection, and psychological safety in repairing trust
• When workplace standards should be challenged—and when they're necessary to achieve shared goals
• Practical strategies for giving feedback that supports growth without diminishing someone's identity

Rather than avoiding difficult conversations, Sangeeta and Fong show how leaders can navigate them with empathy, accountability, and clarity. They offer a thoughtful framework for moving beyond defensiveness and creating a workplace culture where honest feedback strengthens relationships instead of damaging them.

If you're a manager, executive, or people leader, this episode will help you approach feedback with greater confidence, compassion, and intention.

🎧 Tune in to learn how to separate identity from performance—and build a culture where feedback becomes a catalyst for growth, not conflict.